I can’t say that I’m a guru in bed, but I’ve had a few friends approach me in the event of their sex lives on a complete down-swing. One of the biggest issues that I find that most men have is the need to be on the bottom in bed. Not that I blame you, I mean I understand that after a hard day’s work, really trying to muster the energy and enthusiasm to keep your partner happy can turn out to be a gargantuan task especially once the initial phases of exploring have fizzled out. Here are a few things that I do to maintain getting my freak on in bed.
Even if you’re the silent type in bed, try a little bit of moaning and groaning in bed as well. After all you do want your partner to know that he/ she has found those sensitive spots on your body. If you’re still at the bottom, then try a few acts domineering such as holding your partner a bit more firmly than you otherwise would. When I mean firmly, I do not mean out of aggression….well that depends on your understanding of your partner and your capacity to understand how hard is too hard. If he/she is still on top, maybe a firm grasp on the buttocks, lower back, and strong strokes on the shoulders isn’t a bad option. Make it hot in the bedroom, I don’t mean the temperature. If you’re a guy, then know if you have the capacity to pick up your partner in your arms. Women love excessive “cradling” in bed as well as other methods of reinforcing your love for them.
Another pointer would be is to not feel afraid to get freaky in bed. Discuss it with your partner if they’re willing to use foods in bed. Now I’m not talking about those sensual moments where you licked up chocolate sauce from her nipples once but understanding that God has blessed us with an abundance of fruit on this earth. Grapes are good, bananas are especially arousing. Try lubricating and caressing private parts with whipped cream as well as doing a mouth to mouth with certain juices. By experience, I feel that mango juice is probably the best because the sugar rush takes a whole new level.
A third good way of living up to fantasies would be costumes. I had a partner who dressed up as a policeman at the airport while I was the suspicious passenger who was in dire need of cavity check. But for straight guys, other good costumes would be Batman and Wonder Woman, Bonnie and Clyde, etc.
My point of this article is for you to try to understand your partner’s physical needs more than your own needs. Trying to understand your partner in bed is so important in a relationship, so I beg of you not to dismiss this thought. Don’t be afraid to go down on your partner. I know a lot of men who are repulsed by going down on their partners. If you’re not into it, I suggest that you force yourself to do it and you’ll realize how the aromas and the twitching from your partner can be more of a turn on to you than you think. Bonding with your partner in bed is way better than jerking off the next morning.
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