If you’re like most men, you would love to be a fly on the wall in a room where women are discussing their men and the things they hate for them to do in bed. Are you doing something that’s making her crazy but she isn’t going to tell you?
Even if a guy who is rocking her world between the sheets can become irritating through repeated bad habits. Read on to see what tendency you need to break immediately to avoid being ‘one of these guys’. Or being cheated by her. You don’t want any of these stories to happen!
“You can’t leave your socks on, baby”
Looks are an advantage, if you can improve this point, why don’t you do it? Make sure you pay attention to details, even seemingly tiny ones!
Getting undressed quickly because you just can’t wait to get down with her is great. But sex with your socks on just isn’t a good look on anyone, Bro. She doesn’t want to feel like she’s getting it on with a middle aged insurance salesman.
“Do you want to chit chat or do you wanna sweat up the sheets?”
Being vocal during sex can be hot. Talking dirty to her? Great! But talking about your day, the meaning of life, or the phone call from your mother is a turn-off. This is sex, not therapy! Save the meaning of life and frustrations of the day for the couch, not the bedroom.
If you must talk, then talk about how great she feels, how hot she looks, and how phenomenal she smells and how much you want to spend hours in bed with her!
The facial
The proliferation of porn has a lot of guys thinking that ejaculating on your girl’s face, chest, butt, etc. is hot. But real life isn’t porn. Sure, the girls in porn seem to love that.
But here’s a tip: someone’s standing just off camera with a big fat check for them once they’re done. In your bedroom, no one’s paying your girl to endure that (presumably).
The sloppy kiss
Girls love to kiss and be kissed. It’s not a discovery that not only knowing how to properly kiss her is important, but also WHEN to do it.
If your girl is a big Sex and the City fan, she was nodding her head during Miranda’s rant about her new lover who wanted to kiss right after performing oral on her. No girl likes tasting herself, and let’s face it: if you’ve done a good job down there then you’ve got her all over you. It’s not sexy for her.
If you tend to do this, think about how much you like it when she wants to tongue kiss you directly after a blow job. Yeah, you’re not so into it, right?
Mood music or not-so-in-the-mood music?
She needs to get out of her own head and quiet all those voices competing for her attention to really relax and enjoy sex. If your background music is too distracting, then you’re not helping the situation.
If this is you, try something more sensual. There’s a reason Barry White is known as panty-dropping music. R&B will never lead you astray. Or let her choose the music. Hate her taste? Go with no music at all.
Eliminating these bad habits may just put you over the top for “best lover EVER” in her book. You don’t want some bad habits to overshadow the great work you’re doing between the sheets.
Sarah Williams is a Berlin based lifestyle blogger who specializes in dating advice in the ara of digital love. Check out her blog: Wingman Magazine .
