How to Date after a Divorce

Get Your Shit Together
Ok, so by that we mean get your finances in order. Dating will cost you so it's time to start managing your money. If you got taken to the cleaners we feel bad for you since dating may be a bit tough at first but there are women out there that enjoy a cup of coffee for a first date. However, if you came out of your divorce without a dent then taking your date to a fancy restaurant followed by drinks is a better way for getting back out there. If you are lucky enough to follow dinner with drinks back to your or her place then you are steering in the right direction. 

She is Not Your Ex
Things didn't end up so well with your breakup and you still have anger towards your ex. That’ fine. You just need to get over this…quickly!  Taking your anger out on your new date or thinking all women are the same is not good or healthy. A small percentage of marriages/couples break up and still remain friends so, manage that anger of yours and don't bring resentment or baggage with you and you'll see you will not be alone.  

Stop Bitching
Yup you heard us. We feel your pain but after a while neither your guy friends nor your new date wants to hear about your ex. Your guy friends may be a bit more understanding but the last thing a woman wants to hear is you bitching or talking about your ex especially on the first date. That will just imply that you are not over your ex. Unless she asks you a question about your past you are not allowed to talk about it. Your job is to focus on who is in front of you since that is why you started dating again. 

Join a Dating Site
The easiest way to start dating quickly is by joining a dating site. Yes everyone on the site is miserably single but you'll be surprise how many quality people you'll find. Some of our friends swear by this and tell us how wonderful it is and the many dates they go on. We suggest you start by signing on to PinstripeSingles where you can view and chat with thousands of people looking for the same thing you are. This can even be a quick way to bed someone and really get over your ex. Just be careful.

Don't Try So Hard
This may sound like a contradiction with what we just mentioned above but if you seem like you are not desperately looking you can find yourself scoring sooner than you thought. So whether you're hitting it off with that hot bartender, making funny remarks to your waitress or starting a great conversation with the sales person at your favorite store, be yourself and you will find yourself waking up the next morning with… umm what's her name? Remember just to be open, friendly, listen and relate to your date and don't act like someone who just failed at their most recent relationship. You need to appear drama free and be fun. Women like having fun so make her laugh and you will find a couple of girls with no strings attached. That's what you'll need in the beginning.