I’ve been the mediator for quite a few of my friends’ marriages while in trouble so there are a lot of things that I always look for during the marriage itself. I try to see if there is a strong eye connection between the two parties getting married. I also see if there is a lot of tender holding of hands and hips during times when certain rites have to be followed or even if there is that natural glow on their faces because, well, it’s their wedding day. I know I may seem a little superficial; it’s just that I don’t understand why there are no obvious signs of love in most weddings that I do attend. Is it because of the fact that some people get married too quickly because they feel they’ve found someone whom they can get along with at a mediocre level and hope that that comfort grows once they get married? Or is it because they actually consider getting married because they’ve already reached their late thirties/early forties and waiting any longer would just be social suicide?
I know that my lifestyle might be a little different and cant be applied to every other normal guys’ art of living, so I’m writing this article for all the youngsters (and by that I mean 21 and above). I know my point of view might seem a little trivial but just hear me out.
We’re in a stage where what is expected from our sexual auras are very established by the social groups that we live in. It’s very easy for us to consider sex as nothing more than just a physical need that needs to be satisfied, and it saddens me how most men treat sex as a dirty little secret that needs to be taken care of rather than giving it the respect it deserves. The only reason why I still like being single is because I’ve learned so much from friends and sex buddies with whom I’ve connected with along the way. Well I connect with sex buddies in obvious ways. A friend of mine used the term “naked chillings”, which goes beyond just what you get from the term alone. It’s those moments where you’re laying in bed with that special someone after sex and you talk about everything under the sun. You look into their eyes because you both have just conquered every form of formality and pouring your heart out to them is damn easy then. You also know that communication at that point can also be silent where all you’re doing is caressing your partner’s body and giving them the occasional peck on their head, neck and shoulders.
It’s not that I’m trying to restrict you from not getting kinky in bed, by all means, be my guest; I mean whatever turns you on so long as that kink is consensual. I’m saying that you should learn to grow as a mature human being from now since our hormones are still running wild-ish and we can learn so much from someone when you connect with them from their core. It’s when you don’t learn to explore yourself like that, that you’re made to feel numb to such emotions and understanding when you’re a little older.
My point being that sex shouldn’t be something that you learn from TV; it should be something a little more innate than external. So, be a little more open minded with whomever you’re getting intimate with rather than treating it like a “one night stand” with him/her.
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